How To Make Cats Like You

Portrait Of Beautiful Young Woman 20 Years With A Fluffy Red CatWhen meeting a new feline friend, do they flock to you like you’re a can of tuna, or tend to avoid you like you’re the vet? Cats aren’t the type of animal to automatically like any human, and can take more time than other animals to get to know. In order to be like-able to cats, you must understand what they’re looking for in a new friend and how to best approach a cat. Here, we’re going to discuss how to make feline friends and keep them coming back!

In order to befriend a cat, you must understand the language that cats use to communicate. Cats communicate through sound, scent, and body language. When it comes to scent, cats communicate with each other through “marking.” Every cat has scent glands in his/her face that tell other cats the state of that cat’s age, gender, and reproductive status. Cats use this scent technology to mark places, people, and things. You can use scent to your advantage by allowing your new cat friend to smell you before approaching them for petting. This way, the cat will feel comfortable enough with your smells to take your friendship further.

If a cat seems to be enticed by your smells, let them indulge. This could mean that your hands are intoxicating, due to smells left from your home, your last meal, or even another pet. Cats like to sniff hands, but they also love to sniff feet. Feel free to allow your new cat friend to sniff your shoes as well. Cats seem to have a foot fetish, and by allowing the cat to get to know your shoe’s smells, they will likely warm up to you quicker.

As far as body language goes, there are ways that you can be conscious of your body language in order to better appeal to cats.
Eye contact: Most animals see direct eye contact as a sign of aggression, and cats are no different. Looking a cat directly in the eye says, “I challenge you!” Even if a cat is staring at you, you should never look at them face-on until you get to know each other better. Instead, try tilting your head to the side so you don’t give them full face contact or simply acknowledge them without looking into their eyes at first.
Get down on their level: It helps cats to assess you if you get down on your knees so that they can see you at their level. This way, you’ll seem more approachable and less of a giant to a tiny kitty. You can kneel or sit on the ground, or remain in a comfortable and inviting chair.
The Girl Kisses A Red KittenDon’t try petting too soon: You want a cat to ask you to be petted, instead of the other way around. Playing “hard to get” is the best way to get a cat to come to you first. You can extend an arm or a leg and see if kitty starts to brush up on it first before taking it a step further and actually petting the little guy.
Look inviting: If you are sitting and have your legs crossed, it will be harder for a cat to try and hang out with you. Sit in a relaxed position with your lap available in hopes that kitty will come and take a seat on your lap. Avoiding threatening body postures will help up your chances of getting kitty attention as well.

Now, let’s discuss sounds. Cats seem to react best to high-pitched voices and sounds. This is why we find so many cat owners using “baby talk” with their feline counterparts. As silly as it may seem, a cat is much more likely to respond to you with a calm and light voice rather than a booming one, so you may want to try the “baby talk” yourself. This could include making meow-like noises, saying the cat’s name, or just directing your voice and attention to the kitty to let them know that they’re invited to engage with you.

Now that you’ve learned the basics about body language, scent, and sound, let’s go over some other basic rules for being a cat-whisperer.
1. Give them space: We can’t reiterate this tip enough. Most cats are independent creatures, and don’t want a human overlord constantly bugging them for attention. By giving a cat space and allowing them to come to you first, you are respecting the cat’s wishes. Have you ever noticed that in a social situation, cats tend to come to the one person that’s ignoring them? This is because that person’s body language and attitude were more inviting to a cat than those going out of their way to receive interaction.
2. Feed them: If you’re over at a friend’s house and you’re trying to make their cat like you, ask if you can give them a treat or their next meal. Most cats are food-oriented, and seeing you distribute their kibble will make them create positive associations with you.
3. Brush them: Another way to make a cat simply fall in love with you is to join in on their grooming habits. Most cats love to be brushed, when they’re in the right mood, and you can get extra points by helping to be a part of this routine. When cats become friends, they groom each other, and you can form a friendship in the same way. Just make sure to read the cat’s body clues as to when it’s time to stop brushing and you’ll be set!
Cute ginger cat sleeps on warm knit sweater4. Hold the cat: Once you’ve built up enough trust, and granted that the cat is the kind of kitty that likes to be held, you can slowly bend down to the kitty’s level and try picking them up. Make sure that you’re fully supporting their body and make sure that they feel secure. Cats enjoy being brought up to human level, since this way they can get a better view of the room and what’s going on.
5. Pet them right: Petting a cat can be like walking over a minefield; that is, if you aren’t familiar with how cats like to be pet. Although cats may entice you with their soft, fluffy bodies, you should never try to pet a cat’s stomach unless you’ve established that type of trust over a long period of time. Cats enjoy being pet on their head and face, behind their neck, and along their back. If you pet the cat right, they’ll keep coming back for scratches when they’re ready.
6. Play with them: Another way that cats bond with each other is through play. Use an interactive string toy to simulate chasing and attacking of prey, just like two cats would. This will influence kitty to keep an eye on you and likely ask you to play again in the future.

Above all, just remember to think like a cat. The better you get to know a cat, the better you’ll be able to gauge their mood, how much attention they crave, and what type of affection they like most. Just pay attention to the cat’s body language, verbal cues, and their general temperament and you’ll be best buddies in no time.